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What Causes Grown Men To Wet The Bed? And How To Stop It

Nocturnal incontinence in men is more common than you think.

There is probably not more of an embarrassing problem for a grown man to deal with than a bedwetting problem.

Your self esteem can take a huge hit, and relationships and going away on vacation can seem out of the question if you’re an adult male who occasionally, or (more rarely) regularly wets the bed.

Some adults have a problem with bedwetting after drinking alcohol. But for other men, it’s something that seems to happen without any trigger at all.

If you have been wetting the bed since you were a child and continue to as an adult, it could be an indication of a medical condition.

If you have not already done so, make sure you pay a visit to your doctor so you can rule out any sort of physical health problem with your kidneys or bladder, or other conditions that can directly bring about bed wetting like diabetes and sleep apnea. Overactive bladder is a common condition that can affect anyone, and can result in bedwetting along with a regular urgent need to urinate during the day.

There are plenty of medical conditions that can bring about bedwetting issues. Bladder stones, urinary tract infection, prostate enlargement and diabetes are some of the possibilities; but there’s no point in guessing. See your doctor and explain your symptoms so you can hopefully rule out any serious health issues.

Stress and anxiety might contribute to the development or worsening of nocturnal enuresis in adult men. If a sudden stressful has occured in your life, and you’ve noticed this coincided with the sudden development of bedwetting or loss of bladder control, and provided there are no underlying physical health problems, focusing on stress reduction through exercise, good diet, and breathing exercises like meditation can be extremely helpful.

Men who are experiencing bedwetting as adults, and who were also wetting the bed as children often didn’t receive any help or treatment as a child – many parents expect their child to just grow out of it, or can’t imagine that it will still happen when their son reaches the teenage and adult years. But it can, and does. Unfortunately you can’t go back in time, but you can now start to take action to halt bedwetting – no matter what age you are.

Is it more difficult to stop nocturnal enuresis once you’re an adult, compared with as a child? Often, yes, it can be a more complex situation to resolve in adults.

But the basic strategy is the same (provided you do not have a diagnosed medical condition causing the bedwetting, which is why it’s vital to see a doctor before attempting any treatment). Stopping adult bedwetting involves training through the use of alarms or other methods, and in some cases: medications as prescribed by your doctor.

The key to eliminating the problem of bedwetting as an adult male is to be consistent with your treatment approach, and to put the effort in to staying motivated. It can take several months to turn this condition around, so it’s prudent that you don’t lose hope along the way and that you stick with your treatment plan.

If on the other hand your bedwetting has only recently started as an adult, you also need to have the above medical conditions ruled out by your doctor before you start to treat the bedwetting issue directly. If you get the all clear from your physician, it’s time to look into other potential reasons of why you are wetting the bed.

Whether you are a male in your late teens, or an adult in your 20s, 30s or beyond, wetting the bed is extremely distressing.

Most people think of it as something that only affects children. While this is almost always the case, and most children will grow out of it before the age of 8 or so, a small percentage of people continue to experience bedwetting into their adult years.

In fact, estimates put it at about 2% of adults who wet the bed at night. Of course, these statistics can be difficult to confirm as many people suffering from this condition do not report it to their doctor or other health professional, for fear of embarrassment and feeling ashamed.

But there is no need to feel ashamed, or to feel that there is no hope for having a normal dry life. It is absolutely possible to stop your bedwetting permanently, whatever the cause of it might be.

4 thoughts on “What Causes Grown Men To Wet The Bed? And How To Stop It”

  1. Yes lifelong bedwetter here. When I was a teenager I wish I had a doctor recommend a eurologic study done rather than telling me I would stop wetting with time. I did have a study done in my 30s that determined I have a neurogenic bladder, probably since birth, which as the dr. Put it my bladder reacts pretty much like a babies in that the brain bladder connection doesn’t operate properly. This also explained why I always struggled with daytime leakage issues also. The suggestion of having surgery for this with only a possibility that it might help was not enough to convince me to go that route. I had become quite comfortable wearing nighttime diapers to mostly keep my bed dry Over the years but then added daytime disposables to my routine which Greatly reduced my stress level. I also found it to be quite convenient.

  2. I started bedwetting which turned into daytime wetting as well around 3 years ago. Have been in full time diapers since. Went to Urologist who did all the tests and it showed him that I had a neurogenic bladder. Went to a neurologist that thought it was CIDP or problem with my nervous system relaying messages from my brain to my bladder and vice versa. Did all his tests and was not able to come back with anything conclusive. Wanted me to go to a Specialist but have yet to go because not sure if it would help anything. I guess I will be a 43 year male who will have to wear diapers for the rest of my life unless some medical breakthrough happens.

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